Quarter Life Crisis + Finding Clarity
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LOL at this post title, right?
Let's start with this outfit because I'm
in love
with these joggers from
. They're slightly high-waisted and so comfortable. They make the booty look good, and you can't beat a pair of paints that are perfect for brunch and can be worn if you make it to the gym.
The cropped hoodie (below) is super cute, and yes, it has thumbholes. SO FALL. I'm a sucker for any top with thumbholes in the fall, and this top was no exception.
So quarter life crisis: I think it's funny because at the end of the day, there's really no crisis. Whatever the bullshit about a quarter life crisis is really just boils down to the pressure we put on ourselves, the extent to which we're comparing our path to others, and where we
think
we should be.
BUT THE PRESSURE IS THERE, isn't it?!
Seriously, I really hope that most of you can relate in some capacity to this post. If you can't, I'll just feel worse about myself, it's cool.
But I'm confident that anyone in their twenties knows
exactly
what I'm talking about. Yeah, our experience is all different, but if you haven't hit a point of "
WTF am I doing with my life"
, you're either killing it, an alien, or not in tune with your emotions.
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So what do I do when I'm feeling all down and like I can't figure out the next step? Workout. It might sound simple, but it works. When we're too deep in our head and in negative thoughts, sometimes we just need a damn break and need to sweat it out.
I'm telling you - I'll find myself all caught up in my thoughts, doubting myself, questioning timing, and just letting it get me
down
. Down to where I just want to take a bath, watch Sex & The City reruns on E, and eat an entire pint of Ben & Jerry's, maybe start over tomorrow.
When we start to feel like that, we have to force ourselves (as much as I
know
you won't want to in the moment) to just get the F up and move your body. Go for a run, head to the gym, DO SOMETHING. Do NOT just sit there and wallow for too long.
Give yourself a little time to wallow, that's fine. Cry, be a brat for a little, but then dust that shit off your shoulders and get to business.
Just to share a little more in detail about what I've been dealing with, I've been
hard
on myself. Like, really really hard. I'd say the majority of my days are focused, I see the light at the end of the tunnel, and I 100% am confident that I'm on the right path.
I absolutely love creating content on my blog and YouTube channel. My only regret is that I didn't start earlier, because the hustle is
real
.
If you read my post about side hustlin', you know I'm always in approval of a good side hustle. Especially in your twenties when we're trying to figure it all out, it never hurts to have more than one source of income and to be hustling your ass off.
I've been focused on creating content but also struggling to know what the next step, day, hour, or chapter has in store. I've compared my path to others' and wondered why I'm not at a certain level, what I'm supposed to be doing, and how the hell I'm going to find time to make dinner in the mix.
But we all know that comparing ourselves gets us
nowhere
. Nowhere except deeper in our own self deprecating thoughts, and what good is that?
So, if you've been having some of the same emotions I have (and believe me when I say they've been intense lately),
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
I REPEAT
:
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
Our paths are all unique - You may see someone with a badass career killing it...applaud for them. One woman's success is NOT the absence of your own, and your paths are not identical. Our timing is all different, paths crossing different chapters at different times, and that's ok.
As long as we focus on being better than we were yesterday, staying productive, and feeding ourselves positive, uplifting thoughts, we gon' be alright (
Kendrck Lamar voice)
. But seriously.
There are always going to be days where you wonder wtf is going on and why certain things maybe going "nowhere" or more slowly than you'd like. Hang in there. Do everything you can to get to the next step and continue being productive.
Don't become idle when that frustration rises. Just keep moving forward, ask yourself what it is you need to focus on, and do that. Sometimes it might be shit you don't
want
to be doing, but if that's the best option for the time being, do it.
Weigh your options and be the boss you know you can be.
xx